James 1:19 Qualities Needed in Trials
19 So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; 20 for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
Relationships are the most important thing in this life and the next. It is our relationship with God through Christ that makes the next life possible. God thought relationships were so important that He gave us the Ten Commandments. The first four are about our relationship to him and the remaining six are about our relationships with each other. God put more emphasis on relationships to each other than to Him. It takes a lot of time to build a relationship and only seconds to destroy one with just a few harsh words. Wouldn’t it be a good idea to be careful what we say? How can we do that?
James asks us to be slow to speak. How would our relationships benefit if we took the time to think about what we want to say and how we say it? Would there be fewer offenses? Would there be fewer hurt feelings? Would we all get along better? God has a plan for how we are to live and gentleness and kindness are just two of the things He wants us to follow. Taking time to think would be a great way to improve relationships. We would have the time to make sure we are encouraging others with our words. Hebrews 4:12 says “For the word of God is living and powerful, and sharper than any two–edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.” All words are powerful! Be careful how you wield that sword. You don’t want to cut anybody! Words can be sharp but they can also be soothing. Use your words to sooth and heal. Use them to build up! Use them to encourage!
As I have said, I have a critical nature. It is something I learned. I am asking God to change me but that takes time. I am pausing to think about how I want to respond to some of the things that happen with Jean. I know that I want to use my words to bless her. I am thinking of ways to highlight her wonderful attributes and encouraging her to use the gifts she has been given. Many of us see only our faults and not our blessings. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could be the one who shows your spouse or children all of their gifts and blessings and how much they mean to you? Why not try to be a good finder starting today? Ask God to help you get started blessing His creation!
Father, we thank you for all the gifts and talents you have given us. Help us to recognize them and use them to your glory. In Jesus name we pray!